• chiliedogg@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    It’s different.

    It’s way better in some ways - especially if you find a good career in a field you’re passionate about.

    But some of the responsibilities of adulthood are a burden that is hard to appreciate until you’re there. And the perspective gained by life experience is also very different, for better or worse.

    For instance, I went through a breakup last year at 39 with someone I was fully expecting to marry. It was my first major relationship failure in decades, and as I was being dumped I expected it to crush me.

    What ended up hurting the most was that it didn’t hurt that much. I didn’t spiral into depression or fall apart at work. I wasn’t happy about it, but I was fine. A younger me would have been overwhelmed by the emotional toll, but the adult me was able to keep moving forward without breaking stride.

    And in a way that’s what hurts. The passion of youth has been tempered by a lifetime of experience that puts everything into perspective.

    • RGB3x3@lemmy.world
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      9 months ago

      Ugh, as you get older, everything just starts to dull. Things are less important, less passionate, and more “meh” in general. And not in a depressed way, but more specifically that I’ve been there, done that for most emotions I could have.

      I will say that now that I have an infant daughter, I’m finding those passionate emotions again and I’m excited as she’s excited and sad when she’s sad. That is the great part about parenting.

    • GissaMittJobb@lemmy.ml
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      And in a way that’s what hurts. The passion of youth has been tempered by a lifetime of experience that puts everything into perspective.

      Ok, yes, I felt that.

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      9 months ago

      And in a way that’s what hurts. The passion of youth has been tempered by a lifetime of experience that puts everything into perspective.

      21, and I am feeling this already.