• lunarul@lemmy.world
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    6 days ago

    we should go do X

    we should stay in and watch a movie and snuggle

    That’s not small talk, that’s planning what to do today. You can open the same conversation with “hey, what do you want to do today?”

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      5 days ago

      Most people who “hate small talk” in posts like this have either very specific ideas in their mind of what it means, such as annoying coworkers who talk about quilting or baseball loudly in the next cubicle, or are deeply sour, lonely, cynical shits who think they’re god’s gift to intellectualism and have never had a girlfriend in their life so they can’t imagine what people talk about casually in private, and think that being in a relationship with someone needs to be like, always planning a heist over a map of the city sewer system or talking about geopolitics or lecturing their imaginary waifu about science facts.

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        4 days ago

        I occasionally lecture my 3DPD wife about science facts and she hates it. She’ll say things like “what?” And “I was just asking what we should do for dinner”