I don’t mean to give you unrequested advice so apologies if I come across as dismissive of your experience. I just feel like I can add some points that people in your situation might benefit from.

And that is to not chase love in itself. I found that as I got older I also accepted that I would grow old without a romantic relationship. Though I did invest time in my friendship relationships, and that did work.

While being somewhat saddened by it, I accepted that the chances of me finding love through dating apps was low, in particular because I don’t want to have kids, which obviously is a deal-breaker for many people. So my approach there was to just try to enjoy the moment without expectations and without judgement. If I got a match I’d try to have a fun conversation, if it was fun I’d try to set up a date, and if that was fun I’d keep it going. Just going for having an enjoyable time at that moment without expectations. It made even the dates that weren’t going anywhere long term enjoyable experiences, with the occasional opportunity for physical intimacy with someone who was on the same page about expectations. I could have lived like that but just got plain lucky this year I think. For me it still feels amazing to have happened so I’m not going to type lies and say it will happen for everyone. But I went into this relationship with no expectations either so regardless of what happens in the future I will treasure what is happening now, as I’m a relationship with the most amazing woman who adores aspects of me that would often be things other dates told me made me seem immature and obsessive.

So, you and people that relate to you, I genuinely wish you happiness and good things. In all aspects of life. But please don’t give up on meeting new people if you can, you might make someone else happy just by existing. Or if not you could at least give them a nice date.

That screen didn’t exist in Win XP. If it had, it would have been a different shade of blue. This is either Win10 though I suspect it’s Win11.

Once they’ve reached your desired ripeness you can slow down them getting overripe in the fridge.

Yeah, I get surgery sometimes is pushed unnecessary but in my case my femur head made me have a FAI angle of only 35 degrees. Which caused physical damage to the point of oedema, osteoporosis, a cyst and shredded connective tissue. No PT is going to solve that. Recovery took over a year but at least I can now train 4-5 times a week again when before I was lucky if I could go once every two weeks.

And fuck chiropractors. I’m still angry at my former physician for referring me to a quack who cracked my neck for something that literally was a congenital problem with my femur head. I suppose I should have gotten a second opinion but I brought this up from when I was twenty untill in my thirties. It was only spotted when I got a full body RX for something else.

Oh I know not to fight when something is lost, but in nogi my shit just gets wrecked superfast because it’s so explosive and people treat your neck like it’s a handle.

I’ve been doing martial arts in general for almost 30 years now, and I definitely was too careless when I was young. Bad advice about injuries where I got sent to a chiropractor instead of a surgeon meant I already had to get hip surgery before I had turned 40. (Bad FAI angles aggravated by trying to break through the pain, for over a decade, since I believed everyone I was being lazy and soft) I’m luckily more careful now, but there’s still days where I’m in pain just from walking or driving my car.

BJJ will keep you mentally young but your body will start feeling a lot older. Upside is that it’ll be able to do more cool stuff.

Remember that you can tell him you’re too poor for that. Because even to get in the supporting classes you need to be quite a bit more than just “wealthy”.

Say you need to go work and it takes 15 minutes by car. By bike takes 30 minutes. Great, very doable if weather allows.

But wait, you need to drop off and pick up your kids for whom you could only find a daycare spot somewhere that isn’t on you way to work. The shortest distance by bike forces you through the centre where other bike and school traffic means it takes another half hour on top of your journey. By car you could take a ring road so it only adds 7 minutes. (This road exists for bikes too, but since the difference in max speed with a bike it’d take even longer)

This is not even taking shopping into consideration. Or hobbies or visiting friends and family.

I’m all for reducing car usage and I try to do so when I can. But cars do have a purpose and free up a LOT of time for you to actually live your life with your family.

Not everyone can ride a bike safely. Injuries happen. Permanent problems happen. To deal with this you need good public transport. Even in Europe this doesn’t exist unless your entire world is a large city.

I wish I could say the same but if you want to date you have to here. I despise and absolutely hate how you have to you use a phone number to register. And then every contact you have can add you to a group so everyone there now can have your number.

I’ve had a stalker before and I hate that stuff like that makes it trivially easy for her to get my number again. I literally can’t understand how women are okay with absolutely shitty systems like this. I really can’t repeat enough how much I strongly hate WhatsApp and how everyone else thinks it’s so good for exactly the reason that I hate it. It’s too easy to send messages despite me never giving you my number to begin with. SMS is the same but you can’t add me to a group without my permission and share my number with a group of people I don’t know.

I loved BG2 and it was one of my favourite games ever for a very long time. Though when I read the old BG sub on Reddit it seems people there disliked everything I loved and hyperfocused on things I just considered part of the vehicle to deliver an amazing story that allowed so much freedom and depth that made you feel emotional and connected. I had tried to replay BG2 but the mechanics are so, so outdated now and distracting.

BG3 over delivers on the choice depth, story and connection but does so with an updated, fun and much better engine with much more mechanics.

Yes, MM DD YY only makes sense when you’re speaking

For many people it doesn’t. It’s something that’s exclusive to the US. In British English it’s day before month when speaking.

It’s something that is taught in school as “remember that the Americans say date before month so you don’t get confused”. But in a business context it’s bloody annoying you don’t switch to the international standard.

In British English you say the date before the month as well. I know that even saying the month first sounds very jarring too me.

I paid for sync for Reddit, I donated to my Lemmy instance and I’ll pay for Sync for Lemmy once I decide for myself whether I take the subscription, simply ad free or one time payment for ultra. As there’s still fixes to the pricing going on I’ll wait out for that

I guess I’m biased with paying for software since I work at a company that makes software it also offers in its’ own SaaS platform. I literally maintain the infrastructure so I’m intimately familiar with those costs. I appreciate anyone who offers software and service for free. But there’s always a cost and if you want premium service you’ll need to pay for it.

That is ofcourse another justification and easy one since paying for sync is almost nothing to me. I do hope the free Sync keeps being a good alternative for anyone who wants to try it.

Not caring what you do on your pc, within reason, is not the same as not monitoring for dangerous actions that could endanger your network or company (and client data). I don’t care what my colleagues do on their pc either. As long as it doesn’t cause me more work.

Logging security incidents is work. So we do block a lot of websites and keep an eye on what you try to run. If we see something wrong we just talk to you and explain why we don’t want you to do that. 99,9% of the time everybody is happy after that.

The idea of this being something you can get fired for or that’s taken into consideration for your evaluation is insane though. We have rights as workers. Keeping the network safe means I can see some extent of what you do. Your boss or their boss has no right to that information unless you state you will continue endangering the network. Even in that case I wouldn’t even tell them the websites tbh.

Security software isn’t tracking software. It should be able to hook into every current semi popular browser without you being able to disable it.

On the other hand, allowing users who don’t know the answer to the question you’re asking to both install VPN software and allow them this kind of traffic is a compliance violation to begin with.

Having a talk about it doesn’t mean they care. They’d just want you to stop doing that on the work network.

If you’re using company hardware on a company network and our security software says you’re visiting ransomware like URLs, it’s very much legal monitoring as it’s for a technical reason. It’s probably mandatory since you need to do this to protect the personal data your company stores.

More often than not you probably signed a document stating you understood and accepted this.

There should be a good GUI for everything but a terminal offers more options to do certain things a lot faster. Especially in work environments. And once you’re used to this level of efficiency and control you’re not likely to stop doing that in your home network.

Cooking a fresh steak to 63 degrees sounds like a waste of money to me. ( And so does cooking chicken to 70) But I think we can all agree to that because we know those are the temperatures that indicate safety if it reaches that for 1 second. And lower temperatures over time are also good.

Generally I prefer reverse searing steak because it allows for a tender perfect inside with a hard crust and no gradients in the doneness. But if I don’t have time for that (or for a sous vide waterbath) I just cook straight out of the fridge in a cast iron while flipping every thirty seconds. And for anyone doubting that flipping 30 seconds is superior to not touching it before flipping once: your steaks will be less evenly cooked which I don’t like but you are free to do so ofcourse. Read Kenji’s article on it if you don’t believe me: https://www.seriouseats.com/the-food-lab-flip-your-steaks-and-burgers-multiple-times-for-better-results